Engaging Each Day with Action Words

Bust. — Rain + Risky Business = Ends with an ice pack.

I am not usually one to complain too much about the weather.  I usually take it as it comes and go with the flow.

But even I have my limits.  It has been raining non-stop for three days.  I’m starting to feel a bit like Noah.  I am tired of the rain.  The rain makes my life complicated.  Just a little bit crazier than normal.  The rain adds complications that seem to just push me over the edge.

As if trying to go to the grocery store with the boy child after work, isn’t hard enough…the rain makes it just that much harder.

We are tired. We have to make two stops. He talks incessantly and whines when I pull in a parking lot. But then. I have to maneuver the whole “put your jacket on” and get the umbrella just right so we are both somehow covered…me, all 5’4” and X all of 44″. Yeah, that works super well.  “I’m getting weeeee–heeeettt!”  Yeah. Me too, kid.

Then we finally get home. And there is the dog. You know the one I’m talking about.  Hatteras.  The one who has a perfectly good, custom made… (read DRY!) doghouse outside for when we are away…and yep, you guessed it.  He won’t go in it. He used to go in it. But now, somehow he has decided that it doesn’t suit him…or maybe he doesn’t notice that it is pouring the rain and has been for three days. Nevertheless, there is this whole scene where I am leading him into the garage so that I can dry his wet butt off before I can even let him in the house.  All of this while it seems like 14 people are asking me for a snack and while I still have four bags of groceries (holding tonight’s dinner ingredients) on my arms.

And before you ask…Yep. I am one of those people who does try to bring all of the groceries in in one trip.  Much to the chagrin of my newly injured back and neck.  Not sure how I did that…but that little tweak of a pain showed its ugly self on the very first 15 pound thruster yesterday morning, causing me to modify the entire rest of the workout.

I’m blaming 40 on that one.

So, then there is dinner. I was determined to make something healthy…so tuna, quinoa and salad. The girl child complained that she had salad, albeit taco salad, for lunch and could she please have green beans instead.  I couldn’t think of a reason why green beans weren’t an acceptable substitute…so, yes. I’ll make one more thing.

The quinoa and green beans and salad were ready about 15 minutes before the tuna, so I told them they could have tuna for dessert. Ha!  All in all, they ate and I can’t complain too much about that.

Then there was some kind of limbo game that broke out as I was trying to finish my dinner and clean up the kitchen. Stop. Stop. Stop. … No, really, Stop. STOP!  and that is when the girl child tries to jump over the limbo rope and falls and gets hurt.  Fortunately, nothing life threatening, and she survives, but not without hearing my theories about motherhood and my keen sense of danger and when I say STOP! … I am actually recommending that there is a greater than 50% chance that there will be an injury and my dear children should indeed listen and cease that activity.

As I said…She survives. Both the fall and the … ahem… lecture.

About 15 minutes later, I move into the living room, with a glass of wine as my dessert, thank you very much..and begin marveling at the fact that the semi-dry dog and the boy-child are actually playing nicely together.  There is some chasing and some running and some laughing and I was just about to post something to MommyVerb’s facebook status about X and H playing nicely until….

…there was a very loud thud, followed immediately by that… scream.

The scream that every Momma knows instinctively.  The scream that means…Shit. This is bad.

I ran into the hallway, and slid very Risky-Business-like on the hardwood floors to meet X there, holding his mouth.

Risky Business (soundtrack)

Risky Business (soundtrack) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Hatteras tripped me!”  Of course he did.  I have to say, for all of the Hatteras fans out there, I did in fact take to his defense, saying that I don’t think he meant to and look here he is checking on you….

“Let me see your mouth.” Yep. Blood. I picked up X and put him on the counter to investigate.  Teeth. Check. Shew. Now I can take a breath.  That is one of my fears…knocked out teeth. And since I have only been to the ER for one of my kiddos, I just automatically assume someday it will be the X-Man. So I grab some paper towels to assess the damage.

Yep. Two busted lips, already swelling.

Ice pack and kisses. And a popsicle to save the day.

And so it continues.  The best friend/partner/hubby is under the weather, so I check on him intermittently.  We have an unspoken rule that we both understand when we are sick that the other person’s job is to just keep the children away and busy and…away. Don’t hate…it works for us.

Finally, I get everyone to the bathtub and showers and then tucked in to beds.  “Go to sleep, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, You are my Sunshine and even a little “I know a Weinie Man, he owns a Weinie stand…” thrown in for good measure, times two.  Hugs and kisses and cold spots, good nights, I love you mores.

And it is done.

But then. Yep. The dog has to go out. And it is still pouring outside. … Ugh!

This Motherhood journey…really can be a risky business some nights. ….I “blame it on the rain”. Stupid rain.

(Stupid song, too.)

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Blog. — MommyVerbs by the Numbers.

Many thanks to the stats helper monkeys who put this 2012 annual report together for MommyVerbs. I had actually started a 2012: Year In Review post and those lil’ Monkeys have saved me the time and effort.

And … those lil’ flying monkeys even added fireworks. Now that is just cool.

MommyVerbs really has become therapy on the cheap for me this year.  It has been a place to share some fun stories, archiving our family funnies; It has been a place for reflections and observations; It hasn’t always been easy–I’ve tried to share the frustrations along with the celebrations.  It has made me be intentional … engage each day with action words. I walk around thinking in verbs these days.  I think there is an inherent positive power in that.

A little less conversation; A little more…Action.

If you are interested, there is a full report of MommyVerb actions this year.  I look at the Site Stats every day and love to see new visitors and views. I love the people I have ‘met’ on here and enjoy the positive comments left behind. (The only cringe worthy stat is the one search engine term: Mommy knows what I want…ick…what is that?!)

MommyVerbs is still a baby blog and I’m looking forward to watching it grow up in 2013.

Here’s an excerpt:

The new Boeing 787 Dreamliner can carry about 250 passengers. This blog was viewed about 1,600 times in 2012. If it were a Dreamliner, it would take about 6 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

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Award. — Paying it forward.


Thanks to Jenn’sMidLifeCrisis for this nomination.  If you don’t know Jenn…check her and her sassy green boots out. She’s a Momma of boys and is embracing her own ‘midlife’ journey, without a sign of any real crisis because she is just. that. cool. And she reads Captain Underpants with her youngin’. That’s just good stuff right there! Thanks for the nod,  Jenn!

(My apologies to Jenn, this took me way too long to complete.  I’m discovering that pesky work must get in my way of blogging, and I am using these days off to play a little catch up.  🙂 )

So, to accept this award, I will now share 11 random facts about me and answer a few questions. Ready?

1. I don’t really like my dog right now. He’s kind of puppy dumb…but I hope to like him someday. That fact makes me a little sad because I love dogs…let’s just say we are having attachment issues and I hope there is hope for us. 🙂

2. I have a love hate relationship with my eyelashes and eyebrows. It’s true. My lashes are long and lovely, but they poke me  in they eyes sometimes.  My eyebrows were reshaped, without malicious intent when I was 13 and my grandmother’s sister’s tried to reshape them by plucking extensively. It’s true, there were probably a couple of caterpillars above my eyes, but the shape has never been the same since that day. I don’t know what to tell you.  I’ve moved on.

3. I just moved into a new office and it has windows. I just posted a blog post about light … and in it you can see my glorious windows. I sit at my desk each morning and say, “It’s so pretty.”

4.I could easily watch all 24 hours of The Christmas Story. My family can attest to that.

5. My favorite holidays are New Year’s Eve and my birthday. Both represent new beginnings and I love a new journal with empty pages.

6. I want to write a book. Someday. And go on a book tour. Think it could ever happen?

7. Our Christmas Tree was so big this year, we had to literally tie it to the wall. There are two screws and fishing line holding that thing up.

8. I cannot stand to be in small, cramped, tight places. If my children get stuck in a tubey slide, they may just have to live there.  I had to go up and in after X once when he was 2 in a Chik-fil-A playground. Once he saw my eyes and the look on my face, he started saying, “I’m Sorry. I’m Sorry. I’m Sorry. I’m Sorry!”

9. When I was a kid, my Dad would make my eat tomatoes, which I hated so much, I could make myself throw up.  (Sorry, Dad!) Now, I am well known for my famous appetizer Bruschetta (made of… yes, tomatoes!) and bring it to most parties we attend. Go figure.

10. I think I was 23 before I learned to swallow pills. Well, maybe not 23. But I did spend a lot of years having tylenol melted in a spoonful of water for me and I’m fairly certain my parents had to pay extra for liquid versions of medicines just to avoid the hassle.

11. I know how to make sock monkeys and towel animals.

How’s that for random?!

And now on to the questions:

The 11 questions are:

What is your favorite quote? Well today it is: “Forgive others, not necessarily because they deserve it, but because it brings you peace.”

What is your favorite season? Summer

What is one of your hobbies? Right now, it is this blog.

What is your favorite dessert? Ice cream

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with the world? “Be nice and Do what I say.” That is the secret to my marriage of 13 years and goes both ways.

What is your biggest dream? To be able to do what I enjoy doing and not have to do too much of it and still get paid to do it so that I can just play and travel and be with my family. 

Who is your favorite superhero/heroine? Right now, it is Iron Man. He makes me giggle and I like me some Robert Downey, Jr. Always have, but like him even more now.

Who is your favorite fictional character and why? Does Diane Lane’s character in “Under the Tuscan Sun” count? I like her. I could move to Tuscany someday. 

Who is your favorite famous person and why? Pippa, Princess Kate’s sister. Mostly because I like saying Pippa. I think I missed a real opportunity to have named Y, Pippa. I tell her that all the time.  She loves the idea. No. Not really.

What is your favorite book and why? Favorite? I don’t know. I’m a busy Momma and I barely have time for reading.  So, what I’m kinda reading right now is Unglued, by Lisa Terkerst.

What is your current brand of toothpaste? Colgate. Lifelong. True. Fan. I really can’t stand any other brand.

Instructions to my nominees: to accept the award, you are to post 11 random facts about yourself and answer 11 questions provided. Pass the award on to 11 other bloggers (make sure you tell them you nominated them!) and give them the same instructions! You are not allowed to nominate the blog who nominated you! Make sure the blogs you chose have 200 or LESS followers. Here are the questions to answer:

What is your favorite quote? 

What is your favorite season? 

What is one of your hobbies? 

What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with the world? 

What is your biggest dream? 

Who is your favorite superhero/heroine? 

What is the movie you watch in the middle of the night when you can’t sleep?

Who is your favorite famous person and why? 

What is the first of your favorite songs that you think of … right…. now!? 

What is your favorite flavor/brand of wine? (Or drink of choice?) 

And now the Liebster Awards Go To These folks that I enjoy reading–These are supposed to be new blogs…I don’t know how new they are, but they were new to me once and maybe to you, too:

1. The Crumb Diaries  Momma raising kiddos and loving them for all they are, accepting them for whatever journey they are on, because she will be there right beside them, every step of the way.

2. laurieanichols  A dedicated blogger — I like the way she thinks and writes. 

3. SmirkPretty  I am enjoying her Happy 100 Days project.  She’s taking it one day at a time. I can appreciate that.

4. Perfectly Imperfect Momma  Another Momma taking it one day (and one drink) at a time.

5. Naptime Writing   I love the idea of Mommas hiding away during naptimes to record some thoughts.  She’s snowed in right now…somebody send her some BioFreeze!

6.  BonneVivanteLife   I’m not sure she knows this, but she’s the first one to really make me feel welcomed in the blogging community and for that I am forever thankful.

7. Mostly Domesticated  Crack me up. I have an X who feels exactly the same way about … BACON!  We had this exact conversation tonight. 🙂

8. The Yummy Mummy Train  She’s doing her best to pay attention to the details while raising up a little one. She’s set a goal for Meditation Mondays in 2013. Check her out.

9. Mama of Letters  I love her take on child led learning and her take on life in general.

10. Scarred for Life  This one’s personal for me.  I find her inspirational — she shares stories of her life and her journey overcoming thyroid cancer.

11. and Last but not least a shameless plug for my hubby and brother in law’s business: SnakeClamp  I’m their guest blogger. I work for free cheap.  Is this a cop-out, maybe, well, yes. But this was hard and I’ve discovered that I follow a lot of the Freshly Pressed blogs who have a ton of followers. 🙂

Go forth and Award! Pay it forward. Make new friends!


Nod. — Channeling Sally Field’s Oscar Speech just a little

I am so excited, I can barely stand it.

I woke up this morning, with a very cool nod from a fellow blogger that I enjoy reading.  You know one of those cool, hip, young kids do it, kind of nods. The kind where you have to move your head up instead of down.  Imagine the classic, “Whassup?” goes along with it.

At any rate, this is quite the honor!  To be nominated for a One Lovely Blog Award by the lovely and delightful,  BonneVivanteLife  — Thank you so much!  You. You are Awesome and have made me feel so welcome!  Thank you BonneVivanteLife  and you should all know that it took her exactly 31 words, earlier this week, to change my entire day!

Now I reveal myself as a list maker–my required action steps for this honor:

1) thank the person who gave it to me,  √

Seven things you folks might not know about me…that should be easy since I’m fairly new to the neighborhood. Here goes:

1.  Born. I was born in California.  In Virginia, that makes me exotic and means The Beach Boys wrote that song about me.

2. Obsess. When I like something, I mean–I really like it. I swear I’m not a hoarder, but I do have every Monkees album (yes, album, not cd) and every TV episode taped on…wait for it…Beta tapes! Yeaaaaahhhhh. Just sayin’.

3.  Clean.  During exam week in college, back in the day, we always had the cleanest apartment. This is because when I’m stressed out, my first response is to clean.  We also ate really well those weeks, because my roommate’s reaction to stress was cooking four course meals!  To this day, to stress means we should first clean up, then two, eat and eat.

4. Appreciate. Favorite TV show ever (well, after The Monkees?!)  Yeah. You know it. Buffy the Vampire Slayer.  Yes, I promise I’m not a 14 year old boy.  I discovered Buffy and the rest of the Scoobies later in life.  But I just like the way they  (read: Joss Whedon) could say a Dawson’s Creek monologue in just a word or two.  And this is from a gal who appreciated a little bit of Pacey growing up, too. Who’s with me!?

5.  Lift. I love my crossfit style gym and I love to lift weights.  Heavy weights. To borrow from a fellow blogger whom I will mention in just a little bit: Deadlift. It’s my superpower.   True Story. I’m kind of a big deal (in my own mind) when it comes to the deadlift.

6.  Sew. So.So. Well, I have a sewing machine and I know how to use it.  But I really can’t make clothes or anything.  Instead, in the past 10 years, I started  a baby blanket business (which sold none, but did give me a lifetime supply of baby shower gifts!) I also made and sold over $600 worth of sock monkeys at a local street fair many moons ago!  Sock Monkeys are kind of my thing.

7.  Aspire. I have a lot of ideas. I have a lot of dreams. I have a lot of things I want to do, to be able to do. I want to aspire to do each and every one of these.  And along the way, wouldn’t it be cool to inspire a few someones?!

Shew! This is work! Good work!

2) share 7 possible things that are unknown about me, √

Nominate. And now, nominating 15 of my favorite bloggers:  (in no particular order and I’m new to this, so I’ve probably messed it up, but know I mean only the best! I don’t always make a splash in their worlds, but they should know that I have felt the quiet ripples of their words in my little space. So here goes):

1.  Tell it like it is nutrition and fitness advice.  I find her inspirational in an anti-guru, good to be in awe of  her strength and point of view, kind of way. Love it.       And I need one of her t-shirts, soon. “40 is the new BadAss.” 

2.  Doing good work in the world right now,  as Monkee warriors.

3.  The name says it all. And someof my favorite words after all. AND, I appreciate those morning hours, too. Get up. Get it done. Be intentional.

4.  She’s been helping Moms lose that baby weight; now she’s enjoying her own cuddly baby days (and her chocolate!)

5.  Great, easy, clean-eatin’ going on here.  Letting her Mini-Chef be a part of the cooking fun!

6.  intentional parenting. Yeah. Let’s Do that.

7.  He is at the gym every morning at 5 a.m. No. Matter. What. His take on weight loss and fitness makes me smile.  No nonsense in a nonsensical kind of way. That completely makes sense.

8.  teeheehee…”Let’s Pretend This Never Happened!”

9. (ok, shameless plug for my best friend/partner/hubby’s business!) Check this one out, I guest blogged for them– I’m kinda proud of that one.

10.  SuperNutrition. SuperBrave. I’m keeping her close right now.

11.  Yeah. Do That. Don’t Eat Crap.

12.  She’s getting ready to hike the AT. I like a gal with BIG plans.

13.  Great advice for trying to keep your kiddos away from processed crap food, even when everybody else is doing it.

14.  I love a recent post: Try-Curious. That’s me.

15.  Now, she just makes me laugh out loud, all sporky and all.

3) nominate 15 bloggers, √

4) notify the nominees of their nomination.

Ok. I will go. Do That.


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